Self-definition has been a responsibility I’ve wholeheartedly taken on as mine. It’s never a duty one should outsource. Of this responsibility, writer and poet Audre Lorde said, “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” Self-definition and self-determination is about the many varied decisions that we make to compose and journey toward ourselves, about the audacity and strength to proclaim, create, and evolve into who we know ourselves to be. It’s okay if your personal definition is in a constant state of flux as you navigate the world.
If a Palestinian ran over & crushed to death an Israeli child, an “investigation” wouldn’t be opened, that Palestinian would be in jail or dead right now. On top of that, the Palestinian’s home would be raided, a few family members would be arrested & their community’s lives would be made a living hell. But because the dead child is a 5 year old Palestinian girl, there is no “flare up,” no “ceasefire shattered,” no “calm disrupted.” It is just ignored.
I’m hungry, and I want to go get food with someone but I have no friends.